http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/ This is a discussion forum powered by vBulletin. To find out about vBulletin, go to http://www.vbulletin.com/ . en Fri, 03 Sep 2010 01:18:12 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/images/misc/rss.jpg http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/ http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/substance-abuse-recovery/16722-ti-again.html Thu, 02 Sep 2010 20:37:04 GMT After watching him on his Road to Redemption a few times, and his jail time I think many of us were hoping he would last longer than 9 months before... After watching him on his Road to Redemption a few times, and his jail time I think many of us were hoping he would last longer than 9 months before he was busted. It's really sad they put him in the limelight on a reality show and made him somewhat of a person some kids looked up to because of his show, yet here he is 9 months later busted for sizzurp.

They made DJ AM a huge idol to many when he had his reality show as well.
It's ridiculous what Hollywood does for money sometimes...

Sorry needed to vent, after reading some of the other message boards, it's just sad..... ]]> Substance Abuse Recovery Done-With-It! http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/substance-abuse-recovery/16722-ti-again.html http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/twelve-step-recovery-aa/16720-anonimity-kind.html Thu, 02 Sep 2010 17:00:57 GMT does anyone else feel this way. I have been riding motorcycles all my life. I have hung around some of the local sober motorcycle clubs and really... does anyone else feel this way. I have been riding motorcycles all my life. I have hung around some of the local sober motorcycle clubs and really have not really to my liking. One of the reasons I think I feel this way is the patch that identifies me as sober. In the beginning I had the shame and refused to break my anonymity in public. I am 16 years sober now. I dont care who knows I am a alcoholic. I openly tell people. I have started to hang out with some veterans org and thought of joining a motorcycle club one sponsors. They do drink but have respected my wishes not to. The thing I have noticed in all of this and I dont mean this derogatory. In public.I prefer to not be recognized as a alcoholic. I would prefer to be seen as a veteran in this example. It seems many of my aa friends are kinda giving me a little ribbing like what is the big deal. I really have no problem standing up and saying what where when why or how I got sober. Is this odd to feel this way? Any one else gone down this path ]]> Twelve Step Recovery- AA leatherneck http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/twelve-step-recovery-aa/16720-anonimity-kind.html http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/doorstop/16719-lets-welcome-patric-ellis.html Thu, 02 Sep 2010 16:08:16 GMT Hi Patric, :bye: Welcome to the sober village. Glad you are here. Hi Patric, :bye:
Welcome to the sober village.
Glad you are here. ]]> The Doorstop Rocketman http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/doorstop/16719-lets-welcome-patric-ellis.html http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/alternatives-twelve-steps/16714-notes-brattleboro.html Thu, 02 Sep 2010 14:03:10 GMT This post is about one way to look at addiction and where it comes from:

Syndrome Model of Addiction:

Syndrome: cluster of signs & symptoms related to an abnormal underlying condition.

Multiple Opportunistic Expression: not all symptoms always present and some may be unique to the individual (outside normal cluster).

Three areas involved in causing syndrome:
1. biochemical/physiological/genetic - nature
2. psychosocial - nurture (mostly family)
3. cultural/peer - nurture (mostly society)

Affect Regulation: changing how we feel.

Affect Dysregulation: poor affect regulation – easily compensated for with mood altering substances – involves associative learning and dopamine pathway (see article - Why is it so Damn Hard to Change? « Rebecca Skloot ).

Deal with by changing internal/external stress (proximity – move away from physically or mentally or emotionally).

Stress management:
1. coping skills
2. emotion focus
3. problem focus

Repair of affect regulation
1. psychotherapy
2. 12 step
3. spirituality

Abstinence:
1. clean & sober lifestyle
2. craving management
3. recovery network ]]> Alternatives to the Twelve Steps EskimoBluDay http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/alternatives-twelve-steps/16714-notes-brattleboro.html http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/mental-health-loft/16713-alone-silence.html Thu, 02 Sep 2010 06:01:21 GMT Waking up late from a nap I find myself determined to break from this crap,pissin me off to no end,so I wrote it down,I just didnt know where to... Waking up late from a nap I find myself determined to break from this crap,pissin me off to no end,so I wrote it down,I just didnt know where to send......



Past thoughts racing through my head, will they ever leave me alone,even when I arise from slumber bed,nightmarez,demonz,fighting me all the way,angels looking to see where I may decide to lay,pondering,wandering in so deep ,making me float into a ocean of grief,fighting,battling driving my way through,iz it real and or iz it true,am I still that lost soul,do I not have the power everyone seez me as whole,angry madness rips me in two,forseeing thingz that will break throiugh,can I not break free from this past,why must I alwayz be the last,until I find what I have to, I will never give in, and I will never again be a fool ........ ]]> Mental Health Loft Electric http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/mental-health-loft/16713-alone-silence.html http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/substance-abuse-recovery/16712-am-i-myself.html Wed, 01 Sep 2010 16:49:55 GMT Hi my name is daryl i am trying a different but not so new type of recovery called harm reduction i am not ready to give up drugs totally but would... Hi my name is daryl i am trying a different but not so new type of recovery called harm reduction i am not ready to give up drugs totally but would like to cut down slowly but surely with the goal to eventually stop for good my drug of choice is crack i started this form of recovery by first leting people know who wanted to help me well i was finally able to be honest and admit i was using then i started going to a support group weekly then having a social worker to talk to weekly who i still am seeing then we came up with plans of how i am to meet my recovery goals i started doing it once a week now its at once a month of course with a few ups and downs in between but its a process that i am never going to stop even when i mess up i been sober now 20 days in now the goal is to do another 14 days then use then do another 30 some days which is my goal of once a month this has not been easy process for me but with every setback i learned somethinf more about recovery and about myself what way we choose to do this recovery thing lets not give up i am wondering are there other people out there doing the same as me well let me know. Bye ]]> Substance Abuse Recovery daryl lewis http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/substance-abuse-recovery/16712-am-i-myself.html http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/alternatives-twelve-steps/16711-way-brattleboro-retreat-notes.html Wed, 01 Sep 2010 16:05:49 GMT I finally finished entering (almost all) of the paper I carried away from Brattleboro. It's in a MS Word doc so I could post it all at once or post it a piece at a time. I can also send the doc as an attachment to anyone interested. How should I post this stuff (or should I just forget it)? Any preferences?

Also I have two books to recommend. They seem to "feed" off each other and might be benificial to anyone suffering - from depression or other mental maladies and even addiction - they seem to be helping me.

They are:

The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook by McKay, Wood, & Brantley, pub. New Harbinger Publications, Inc. 2007

and

Don't sweat the Small Stuff and it's all small stuff by Carlson, pub. Hyperion 1997 ]]> Alternatives to the Twelve Steps EskimoBluDay http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/alternatives-twelve-steps/16711-way-brattleboro-retreat-notes.html http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/doorstop/16710-welcome-mycoolgirl.html Wed, 01 Sep 2010 08:43:19 GMT Hi, Welcome to the sober village. Please make yourself at home here. :bye: Hi, Welcome to the sober village.
Please make yourself at home here.
:bye: ]]> The Doorstop Rocketman http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/doorstop/16710-welcome-mycoolgirl.html http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/arts-entertainment-centre/16709-tv-show-friends-will-made-into-movie.html Wed, 01 Sep 2010 08:38:30 GMT "Friends" TV show is my favourite ever. I really missed all of them. I will surely watch if it will be turned into a movie. I also hope that they will have their show back and title it "Friends Reunited".
Do you have any idea about this? Please share….. ]]> Arts and Entertainment Centre mycoolgirl http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/arts-entertainment-centre/16709-tv-show-friends-will-made-into-movie.html http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/comedy-club/16708-love-dress-joke.html Wed, 01 Sep 2010 08:28:37 GMT A young girl gets married and a few days later her mother goes to visit. When she knocks on the door, she is shocked to see her daughter open it... A young girl gets married and a few days later her mother goes to visit. When she knocks on the door, she is shocked to see her daughter open it naked. "What are you doing?" she asks. "Mom, it's my LOVE dress!! Don't you like it?" I'll come back in a few weeks when the honeymoon is over" replies the mom.

When she goes back, she is shocked when once again her daughter is naked. "Now what are you doing?" "Mom, it's my LOVE dress. It keeps the marriage spicy!"

Later that night the mom decides to try it for herself. When her husband comes home, he gives the same reaction: "Honey, what are you doing?" she gives him the same answer her daughter gave her, "It's my LOVE dress! What do you think of it?" Her husband thinks long and hard and says, "I think you should have ironed it!" ]]> The Comedy Club mycoolgirl http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/comedy-club/16708-love-dress-joke.html http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/relationships-parenting/16707-make-your-love-cool-when-she-he-anger-you.html Wed, 01 Sep 2010 08:25:39 GMT Here are some basic points hot to make your loved ones cool when she/he is in anger at you... 1. Talk with her about the matter what she/he likes... Here are some basic points hot to make your loved ones cool when she/he is in anger at you...

1. Talk with her about the matter what she/he likes the most out of you.

2. Give to her/him a small gift what she/he told you the most liked thing for her/him.

3. Do a small and warm hug.

4. Take her/him to a dinner outside or you cook some dinner as a surprise and give it to her/him (It should be eatable and tasty ... keep in mind...!)

5. Never talk about the reason why you both fought ... At one stage, she/he will lean on you and ask sorry for that fight...

6. Learn from your fight and try to avoid the same in future. ]]> Relationships and Parenting mycoolgirl http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/relationships-parenting/16707-make-your-love-cool-when-she-he-anger-you.html http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/doorstop/16705-hello-everyone.html Tue, 31 Aug 2010 18:23:47 GMT My name is mike, and I'm brand new to this site, or any forum for that matter. :N1BigHug: I am a recovering Heroin and Crack/Cocaine addict. I don't go to 12 step meetings as my doctor keeps suggesting. I guess I feel guilty. I do go to a private therapist weekly. In your opinion, is that just as good?

Any ways..I also started an informational website about drug addiction and hep c. please check it out and let me know how to improve it. To be honest it is monetized, but my main goal is to help as many people as possible!

See you around, :You_Rock_Emoticon:
Mike
Pressing The Issue ]]> The Doorstop pressingtheissu http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/doorstop/16705-hello-everyone.html http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/suggestions-questions-tech-support/16704-custom-avatar.html Tue, 31 Aug 2010 13:06:51 GMT I no longer have an option in my CP to import an avatar from my computer (custom avatar)but I _do _have an option to import a photo for my CP page. ... I no longer have an option in my CP to import an avatar from my computer (custom avatar)but I do have an option to import a photo for my CP page. Would tech support please turn on my "custom avatar" option when you get a minute, please?

Thanks! :You_Rock_Emoticon: ]]> Suggestions, Questions and Tech Support Dolphin http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/suggestions-questions-tech-support/16704-custom-avatar.html http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/peer-support-buddy-groups/16703-suddenly-september-formerly-%2Aalready-august-%2A.html Tue, 31 Aug 2010 09:55:30 GMT Here we go Buddies - September has suddenly arrived! Thanks Zanna for your choice. September here is supposed to signal the start of spring - I... Here we go Buddies - September has suddenly arrived! Thanks Zanna for your choice.

September here is supposed to signal the start of spring - I sincerely hope that is the case! The news this evening informed us that this winter has been the coldest for more than 10 years. The forecast for spring/summer is better though, with above average temps on the way.

No doubt I will soon be complaining about the heat...:sun:

Have a great month everyone.

Fifi :flowerface: ]]> Peer Support Buddy Groups Fifi http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/peer-support-buddy-groups/16703-suddenly-september-formerly-%2Aalready-august-%2A.html http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/town-crier-global-events/16700-vbulletin-software-risk.html Tue, 31 Aug 2010 00:49:33 GMT According to this article there is or was a issue concerning the Vbulletin Software and hackers getting emails and administators passwords. ... According to this article there is or was a issue concerning the Vbulletin Software and hackers getting emails and administators passwords. According to the article the 3.8.6 series is at risk

BBC News - Firm scrambles to patch vBulletin software flaw

Really kinda sad since Vbulletin is a very expensive piece of software when there are many FREE Forum Software's that don't seem to have near as many issues. My own opinion is that Vbulletin has gone down hill ]]> The Town Crier - Global Events LuckyV2 http://www.thesobervillage.com/forums/town-crier-global-events/16700-vbulletin-software-risk.html