My Story-Parents are Addicts

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So my dad has been a drink for as long as I can remember and has smoked a little pot here and there. It has never really seemed to affect his life much. My dad is a smart guy. He graduated salutatorian of his high school class, finished 4 year college in 2.5 years, and went off to law school. He quit because he came home to marry my mom. He has always been a smart guy and I always enjoyed chatting with him about history and politics. He has had a successful business putting on racing events (like marathons and triatholons) where he makes over 100 grand a year with my mom. He used to be the recreation director in our town and coached softball for years. He has always been a successful person. My mom has devoted her life to her family and never really had her own friends or hobbies. It was great growing up with a close family. My sister and I are like doorsteps and have always been close. About eight years ago, when I was still in high school, my dad had an affair with a girl that was 18. I got put in the middle of it because I knew the girl and was forced to hide it from my mom by my dad. It caused a strain on our relationship, but we eventually moved on from it. My mom did find out about it but she did nothing. She lied for my dad to cover it all up. After that, the two of them became consumed with each other. They no longer cared much about doing things as a family of four. It was more about the two of them being together. My dad's drinking began to worsen and worsen. He was also smoking more pot and letting my younger sister smoke with them! She thought it was cool back then when she was 16, but looks back on it now and wonders what the heck was wrong with that! Anyways, about three years ago my dad started taking pain pills for his knee. He needs a knee replacement surgery but can't have it because he doesn't have insurance. (pre-existing condition of high BP) Anyways, the pain pill addiction started there and has gotten worse. It used to be just his prescriptions, but then he started getting them from other family members and god knows who else. On top of all this he was drinking about a case a day. At that point in time I think my mom was still okay. They took my two oldest sons to the river and my dad came back drunk. That was the first incident we ever had that I confronted them on. Since then things have just gone downhill. My dad doesn't know where he is at sometimes and he was just very very sick with high blood pressure. The doctor had him on some sort of patch but I think he needs way more help than that! Over the past few years I noticed my mother acting strange as well. She would fall asleep talking to you and would mumble a lot. She doesn't care about her family anymore, just my dad. They can't leave the house without calling each other every 5 min. and that is not an exaggeration! They rarely get the kids, but two weekends ago they wanted to take the boys to the river. Supposedly my dad had quit drinking and was doing fine. I let them go. My mom dropped them off later that night 3 sheets to the wind! She was stumbling and mumbling. She just acted out of it. She drove them about a 15 min. drive that way! Needless to say I knew I had to say something. So I did and of course they denied doing anything. Meanwhile my sister and I have been talking a lot and she even knows more than I do about their crazy lifestyle. They get pills from all kinds of people. We confronted my parents again and suggested rehab and they told us we were crazy and they didn't want to be our parents anymore! I am lost as to what to do. Please give me some advice. My sister and I are very hurt.