elephants on the table

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I cannot tell you all how much of a friend this forum has been since I first posted. The support and love that comes through your messages makes me smile and hope. I think that it is easy to be kind when the going is easy but it is nothing short of miraculous to see such caring and big hearts -so many folks reaching out when they are going through so much. This week has not been such a painful roller coaster. I have felt more grounded because I knew I had somewhere to go. I will see about al-anon in my community.
Our son- as of today --- has said he wants help and a program. So for now-the intervention is tabled until we see where he is. I'm not even jumping for joy over hearing him say he wants a program -- -- action does speak louder than words. We will see-- in the meantime , he is planning to visit with his son and girlfriend-- ( she has let him back on condition he seeks a program. ). ( good luck, but not my call.) I am sure they need money. I hate being so cynical and suspicious but I have learned. That hurts my heart too. That the person I used to be -so trusting and open has changed into a wiser and tough old bird. Maybe not a black belter yet, but on my way. So, we will see him at least --- and get to hug that precious grandchild. Emotional blackmail there ,too --wehave to remember that to love our grandchild is to not enable his father. It is a big motivator. Yhanks for the words and helping me deal with the wilder elephants in my life.

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