Achieving Harmony

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You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go.
Melody Beattie ©



When a pianist learns a new piece of music, he or she does not sit down and
instantly play it perfectly. A pianist often needs to practice each hand's
work separately to learn the feel, to learn the sound. One hand picks out a
part until there is a rhythm and ease in playing what is difficult. Then,
the musician practices with the other hand, picking through the notes, one
by one, until that hand learns its tasks. When each hand has learned its
part - the sound, the feel, the rhythm, and the tones - then both hands can
play together.

During the time of practice, the music may not sound like much. It may sound
disconnected, not particularly beautiful. But when both hands are ready to
play together, music is created - a whole piece comes together in harmony
and beauty.

When we begin recovery, it may feel like we spend months, even years,
practicing individual, seemingly disconnected behaviors in the separate
parts of our life.

We take our new skills into our work, our career, and begin to apply them
slowly, making our work relationships healthier for us. We take our skills
into our relationships, sometimes one relationship at a time. We struggle
through our new behaviors in our love relationships.

One part at a time, we practice our new music note by note.

We work on our relationship with our Higher Power - our spirituality. We
work at loving ourselves. We work at believing we deserve the best. We work
on our finances. On our recreation. Sometimes on our appearance. Sometimes
on our home.

We work on feelings. On beliefs. On behaviors. Letting go of the old,
acquiring the new. We work and work and work. We practice. We struggle
through. We go from one extreme to the other, and sometimes back through the course again. We make a little progress, go backward, and then go forward
again.

It may all seem disconnected. It may not sound like a harmonious, beautiful
piece of music - just isolated notes. Then one day, something happens. We
become ready to play with both hands, to put the music together.

What we have been working toward, note by note, becomes a song. That song is a whole life, a complete life, and a life in harmony.

The music will come together in our life if we keep practicing the parts.

Today, I will practice my recovery behaviors through the individual parts of
my life. I trust that, one day, things will come together in a full,
complete song.

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