Sharing topic: do codies have triggers too?

[jpeace]

I was thinking, as I posted my reply to kathy's two thoughts thread, about triggers. We addicts and alkies hear a lot in recovery about this, and it's a main focus of treatment--you know, the old adage "people, places and things" which are connected with our urges to use. I have a pretty good handle on what my using triggers are and have over time begun to develop coping skills to combat them when they flare up. And, having only been clean and sober a year, believe me, they still do. Stress is a huge one for me, for example.

But I'm curious to see what you guys think from the other side of the coin: do codies have "triggers" for their codie behaviors too? Do you know what yours are? How have you begun to work at developing awareness of these triggers and what to do instead of acting on the impulses? I firmly believe, that in a different way, we codies are as impulsive as the addicts in our lives, with the difference being the way we act out our impulses/needs to control, etc. One of my big codie things is the impulse to rise up in indignation and jump in to defend someone I feel is being treated unfairly, often getting sucked into a situation that is really none of my business. That's one reason I left SR--too much opportunity for "rescue" when people there really didn't want anything more than attention. Man, is that draining!!! This one also works against me in my own life too.....I tend to react to situations like a 5-year old saying, "you're mean! That's not faaaaaaaiiiiiiirrrrr! Wahhhhhh!" I'm starting to realize that this has been the source of a lot of my conflicts with my boss lately. Fortunately he's about as sick as I am or I'd have been fired about 5 times already..LOL....

Curious to see what the rest of y'all think about this concept....this should be a good sharing topic for a dreary Sunday.