Part 2--Any moms out there staying sane and sober

[Smyle]

This is part two of the original moms thread--
Any mom's out there keeping sane and sober...

I am so grateful for all of you ladies that have supported me and all the other women who need you...

I know we will continue to be there for each other and grow.

so to all of you

welcome to part two....

much love,
beezy

[purrdy]

ooh....!....ooh..........!........... ohhh!!!!........... just wanted to pop in and be the first to say wooohooo for part two!

[Smyle]

purdy--I would have guessed it would be Ayla--lol---

Well--we are a part two--how incredible is that ???

I am finally up and around--I have never been good at being on bedrest. My DH and 2 kiddos have really been helping out-- I think they were really rattled for a bit while I was in the hospital-I am glad to be home and with my family and my pets...

lil kitten is growing up and I think he is gonna make it...yay--DD took good care of him while I was away. I got a secondary infection in my lungs and am still recovering from that--I have not even got to drive the new car but twice. We all took a ride this afternoon--we have had LOTS of rain so we wanted to see all the creeks and walked around a little. Felt good.

DH has stopped smoking -- I can't believe it and I am so proud of him..I know how hard it is to quit anything.

I missed randy but he has been sick too, I hope to get back to work PT this week.

anyways I have just been sleeping alot and I was glad to read back and see that everyone is doing good---for the most part---life is always throwing something at us, we just need to get through it without picking up.

I am tired just from the car ride and typing this....

thinking of you all !!!!

all my love,
beezy

[Chy]

Thank you for starting the part 2 thread Smyle! *hugs*

[TamTam]

Beez, you were in the hospital??? Did I know that? Please follow doctor's orders and be good to yourself- as hard as that is to do! xoxo

Well, mamas- I just got home from an AA funeral... my first. How sad! This man was so educated and had his own business... just goes to remind us, it doesn't matter who you are, how much money you have or how intelligent you are- This disease will take anyone.

CDTE & CUTE

xoxo T

[Candy Scratch]

Wow - I'm thrilled to see we're still pretty much together after a year! Each of you are so special to me and I can't imagine doing this without you in my corner. ((((Big Hugs)))))

Tam, thanks for asking. I don't really have anyone in my family or immediate circle of friends to discuss this with. My family is in denial, since I'm the "responsible one" -- I almost had an argument with my brother last week - me saying I had a problem, him telling me I don't. I had the whole schedule of AA meetings printed off, but, as usual, haven't made one yet. I don't know why I feel so intimidated by AA. I'm the first to use AA slogans in my own head, and I'm sure I'd find it so helpful, but something just keeps me away. I'm working on it, plus a hundred other things -- but I'm finding that by focusing on physical and spiritual health (diet, exercise, yoga, meditation, nature) I am able to stave off cravings for the time being. I almost feel as if I go to AA by reading here, although I know real live people may add another element to all of this. Thanks always for rooting for me!

Pookie! Thanks for sending the book. If you need some $$ for postage (I don't know how heavy it is!) just let me know and I'll send it to you. Hope you're doing OK today.

Brandi! Happy Belated Birthday!!!!! I wish you nothing but the very greatest next year of your life. You deserve it. You sound so good. I'm happy for you and grateful to have you in my life.

(((((Beezy))))))) Glad to hear that you're feeling better little bit by little bit. Please continue to rest and take care of yourself -- your family and your menagerie of critters NEED you to stay well. Sending you much strength and a virtual BOOST to your immune system. +-+-+-+-+ get well vibes+-+-+-+-+-

Petie - wow, what a wedding. What does an $8 million home look like? I can just imagine you running solo in the gorgeous landscape...I'm still plugging along on my treadmill. I can't run outside for very far right now -- maybe it's just been too hot around here, but I just seem to konk out really fast.

UGH - my kids are yelling at one another upstairs and it's enough to make me cringe!!!! Yesterday we made an Indian food feast (naan, butter chicken, lamb korma, tandoori chicken, a cauliflower and chickpea thing, veg samosas, basmati rice and salad) -- we all cooked together and it was SO nice, the cooperation. Mind you, the whole thing took something like 3 hours, but it was nice. We'll be eating leftovers for a couple of days. Why can't they cooperate this way EVERY day????

Must run to rescue the little one, who's wailing again....

Love to all,
C

[Candy Scratch]

Wow - I'm thrilled to see we're still pretty much together after a year! Each of you are so special to me and I can't imagine doing this without you in my corner. ((((Big Hugs)))))

Tam, thanks for asking. I don't really have anyone in my family or immediate circle of friends to discuss this with. My family is in denial, since I'm the "responsible one" -- I almost had an argument with my brother last week - me saying I had a problem, him telling me I don't. I had the whole schedule of AA meetings printed off, but, as usual, haven't made one yet. I don't know why I feel so intimidated by AA. I'm the first to use AA slogans in my own head, and I'm sure I'd find it so helpful, but something just keeps me away. I'm working on it, plus a hundred other things -- I'm finding that by focusing on physical and spiritual health (diet, exercise, yoga, meditation, nature) I am able to stave off cravings for the time being. I almost feel as if I go to AA by reading here, although I know real live people may add another element to all of this. Thanks always for rooting for me!

Pookie! Thanks for sending the book. If you need some $$ for postage (I don't know how heavy it is!) just let me know and I'll send it or paypal it to you. Hope you're doing OK today.

Brandi! Happy Belated Birthday!!!!! I wish you nothing but the very greatest next year of your life. You deserve it. You sound so good. I'm happy for you and grateful to have you in my life.

(((((Beezy))))))) Glad to hear that you're feeling better little bit by little bit. Please continue to rest and take care of yourself -- your family and your menagerie of critters NEED you to stay well. Sending you much strength and a virtual BOOST to your immune system. +-+-+-+-+ get well vibes+-+-+-+-+-

Petie - wow, what a wedding. What does an $8 million home look like? I can just imagine you running solo in the gorgeous landscape...I'm still plugging along on my treadmill. I can't run outside for very far right now -- maybe it's just been too hot around here, but I just seem to konk out really fast.

UGH - my kids are yelling at one another upstairs and it's enough to make me cringe!!!! Yesterday we made an Indian food feast (naan, butter chicken, lamb korma, tandoori chicken, a cauliflower and chickpea thing, veg samosas, basmati rice and salad) -- we all cooked together and it was SO nice, the cooperation. Mind you, the whole thing took something like 3 hours, but it was nice. We'll be eating leftovers for a couple of days. Why can't they cooperate this way EVERY day????

Must run to rescue the little one, who's wailing again....

Love to all,
C

[ayla zaire]

hey mommies.......part 2~ how cool is that?

yep it's been a year......and look how far we have all come.......even those of us who started over a couple of times, are still here and still fighting.......pretty freakin amazing......i know for sure that i would not be sober right now if it weren't for you all......i wouldn't be doing something with my life.......

beezy.....call me when you feel up to it.....i miss your voice, sweetie.....

love you all
ayla

[ayla zaire]

[nycgirl]

Hi all..... busy weekend tired as crap...just checking in!

[c'est la vie]

Well I'm in my house and have internet service and my kitchen is finally functional (all the boxes are empty but the oven is broken) but I'm really not feeling as settled as I wished. Moving at the same time as school is starting is not such a good idea. And I even thought I was doing such a good job of being prepared. I guess not. I've been doing a lot of screaming and cussing and not accepting the wrinkles of life very calmly.

I'm sorry to hear that you have had a bad turn Pookie, but really glad that you are still here.

Brandi, you have become such a strong and determined voice here amongst us. Does it feel good to you?

Beezy, take care of yourself. I didn't read back about what ailment you have but I understand that you should be resting. So GO REST!

[Laura]

Hope everyone is having a good night. I'm getting ready to hit the hay and just wanted to say hi! C'est, glad you're getting settled into your new house. New Jersey? I can't remember.

Beezy- hope you're feeling better soon. Did you have surgery on your bladder? what did they do? If you don't mind me asking.......... Please take care of yourself and don't over-do it. I know it's hard for any mom to be on bedrest- it just goes against our nature. But do take care of yourself!

Petie- Wow, what a wedding! Sounds like fun! What do you get for a couple who can afford a wedding like that?

hope everyone has a great week!

[mikiglen]

just wanted to send hugs to all the mommies, i miss you all..........kinda thrown off track here by something when i first signed in, so i'm not going to "post", just to say i love you guys, and i still see you on im (haha, you can't hide)....and i hope tam and jackie are still around somewhere
signing off, but love you all

[Petie]

Well, I survived a week with my EX in laws. Almost got into this am with the ex. But we made it through in good fashion.

The 8 million dollar home, well, it was donated for the event by another church member of the church that the brides now hubby is the worship minister. So that part was no charge. But let me tell you the place was awesome. obviously 8 million in Cali is not as much house as 8 million in MN. Living is more expensie there and you get a lot less house for the same amount of money. But was F'n amazing for a place. I'll post a few pics in a few days.

Love you all

[Ruby]

Hey gals...

Hope everyone is off to a good start this week! Another sober and relaxing weekend here, so I'm feeling pretty good. Other than my arm hurting. Whatever I've done, it's from the muscle in my forearm all the way down. This is the same side that my carpal tunnel is really bad, so I don't know if there's a connection. It's suppose to be in the mid 70's all week...yay!! Blue skies and good hair days...you gotta love it!

Ig, I was rooting for the Pats yesterday...took them for 15 points in my football pool. It was like one of those double edge sword analogies...ha ha! And just so you know...I still haven't forgotten our bet from last year! Just haven't been able to part with my Manning jersey! But, once I get my Jeff Saturday jersey, Peyton will be on his merry way to NH! Priority Mail!!!!

Beezy, I think I missed something as well...I didn't know you've been in the hospital!!! As always, you're in my prayers!

Here's how I make my corn chowder...

Fry about 5 or 6 pieces of bacon; drain and crumble
Dice a small onion and 4 potatoes and saute in the bacon drippings with a clove of minced garlic
Pour in a can of chicken broth and simmer until the potatoes are done; then add a can of cream corn, a can of drained whole kernel corn and 2 cups of half & half.

I thicken mine a little by mixing together 3 tbsp. each of cornstarch and cold water, adding it to the soup and bringing it back to a boil. When I serve it, I top it with some crumbled bacon and shredded cheddar...it's yummy!

It's something I kinda sorta made up. I looked at about 10 different recipes and pick and choose what I like and come up with my own creation. Soup is a staple around here on football Sundays, so if anyone has any good soup recipes, let me know. I'd really love one for black bean soup...my fav!

Take good care of yourselves today, Mamas....smooches!!

[BrandiK]

Wow! Part 2! Been a long, hard, and rewarding road ...

Beezy - you take care of yourself and get lots of rest. Congrats for hubby quitting smoking, I am a little jealous lol. I bet it'll really help your lung infection. Glad kitten is doing well too!

Tam - that is sad. But a good reminder, thank you for that sobering thought. It's easy to forget how quickly it can take control when not directly in the struggle. How are you doing with it all?

Candy - what a meal! I wouldnt even know where to begin but I bet it was just yummy yummy yummy!!! Wanna come over and cook for us for a night? hehe My womens group used to cook food from different cultures once a month, before life got in the way. May you've inspired me to try again, maybe.

As for getting into AA ... you just have to walk through the door once. Start there.

Ayla - thank you for always being here. Love you!

Petie - wow! I wanna see pic too!

C'est - congrats on getting settled in, sorry it's stressful right now. I have my days (or weeks lol) where I certainly scream more then I need, and bite a bit ... maybe draw some blood Just breathe and remember that this too shall pass. I hope it gets easier/settle soon. It's been a long road to get this far.

And does it feel good? Yes, it feels good to know that I can help other people now. But I can't take it any further then that because I have pride like you wouldnt believe and have to remember to tuck in my ego from time to time

Hi Laura!

((((((((((((((Misti))))))))))))))))) I miss you! Sorry you wont be posting, hope your doing well!

Ruby - sounds yummy! Look at all you cooks out there! It's still hot here this week. Blah. Cooler though, I actually get a bit cold outside at nights now.

Things going good here. I have cleaning I have to attend to after a weekend off (b-l-a-h) but coffee will help get that done lol Finals start tonight, and my lab teacher has given me a FULL lab sheet to complete. So I'll be busy busy busy in school. I can't believe this is my last week in school for this portion. I do have a game plan of online school to finish my pre-reqs and get my AS, then enroll in the RN gateway program at my school. A bit costly, but the only other school has a 3+ years wait list as you have to get in on a lottery program, and everything else is a UC which I can't afford. Whoa .... can you say getting ahead of myself? Ok. Last week of MA program, then externship. Maybe a job will follow, I'll cross that bridge when I get to it. Hard to slow down lol

Stay strong and true mama's!

[TamTam]

Ruby the chowder sounds really good.... and thanks for the low fat version!!! Hey- is it time to pull out the ruby reds yet? I'm getting ready. When you pull out the purple boots, I'll pull out the ruby reds. It's still high 80s here so I don't think it's quite time...

Hi Misti!!!!! It's good to see you. Don't stay away- please- come hang with us.

I went back to the doctor today. He thinks there is more going on than just my shoulder. I am having another MRI next week- this time on my neck. Then I go for a nerve test in my arm. Fun...

DH just left for the airport- he's off to Cal for the week.. which means I can slack.. when I'm not running the kids all over that is.

I have a good Taco Soup recipe- I'll find it and post it.

CDTE & CUTE xoxo T

[h4lov909]

Hello all , 2 weeks today and the hardest day yet its time for the crap to hit the fan with dh my cell phone bill is almost triple what it should be cuz hes talking to that woman again he said our marriage was over in February along with very hurtful mean things. we are gonna have to talk and make some decisions NOW!! I know everyone here is saying dont let the door hit him where the good lord split him, but that is easier said then done. I would just like to grab a bottle and go to bed. i dont feel good my eyes are puffy from bawling all day and this just sucks!!!
BUT i choose not to drink today i will worry about tomorrow tomorrow love u all sorry to be such a downer today

[BrandiK]

believe me, grabbing a bottle would only make things worse AND prove him right. You dont want that!

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGE hugs))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

I am so sorry. I wish I had some better words of wisdom, but right now all I can think of is your heart (ok, and a little Lorena Bobbit)

Love you. You *can* make it through today.

[mtnmagic]

Originally Posted by h4lov909

Hello all , 2 weeks today and the hardest day yet its time for the crap to hit the fan with dh my cell phone bill is almost triple what it should be cuz hes talking to that woman again he said our marriage was over in February along with very hurtful mean things. we are gonna have to talk and make some decisions NOW!! I know everyone here is saying dont let the door hit him where the good lord split him, but that is easier said then done. I would just like to grab a bottle and go to bed. i dont feel good my eyes are puffy from bawling all day and this just sucks!!!
BUT i choose not to drink today i will worry about tomorrow tomorrow love u all sorry to be such a downer today

Hey Mel,

This is NOT about him, this is about you. Believe me I know from my own experience how awful and scared you feel right about now. If you take care of yourself right now, right in this moment, I promise you that you will be able to deal with your relationship better, a little bit later. If it is possible, consider putting your relationship on "hold". Trust me, nothing is going to dramatically change if you do. Same questions, same stuff, another day.
What will change if you choose to remain sober is your ability to see what you want and what you need in your life. I am so sorry you are going through such pain. I'm here for you anytime. Hang on Mel!