Patience

[Hopefloats]

"When I begin to worry about whether this relationship will last or not, I usually do something to break it up. I can't stand the tension."

Why is it that taking the risk of getting what we want seems to be loaded with too much tension to bear? We want our relationships to last and we just can't stand the tension of seeing whether they will last or not. We would rather know what we are dealing with and then we will deal with it.

The anxiety and stress of those suspended times when nothing is agreed upon or completely nailed down just seem to much to bear, don't they? We get to a point where we would rather destroy the possibility than wait for the slow, gradual evolution of a relationship.

Where was it that we were taught that relationships were a task to be accomplished? Where did we get the idea that once a relationship is "nailed down" we can ignore it and get on to bigger and better things?

Our need to know may destroy the process of knowing.

~~~~~~~~~~Anne Wilson Schaef